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Whereas other books on the subject describe the condition as inherited, Dr. Gabor Maté believes that our social and emotional environments play a key role in. In this breakthrough guide to understanding, treating, and healing Attention Deficit Disorder, Dr. Gabor Maté, an adult with ADD and the father of three ADD. Scattered Minds: A New Look at the Origins and Healing of Attention Deficit Disorder [Gabor Mate] on *FREE* shipping on qualifying offers.
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Goodreads helps you keep track of books you want to read. Want to Read saving…. Want to Read Currently Reading Read. Refresh and try again. Open Preview See a Problem? Thanks for telling us about the problem. Return to Book Page. Whereas other books on the subject describe the condition as inherited, Dr. In Scattered, he describes the painful realities of ADD and its effect on children as well as on career and social paths in adults.
While acknowledging that genetics may indeed play a part in predisposing a person toward ADD, Dr. He draws heavily on his own experience with the disorder, as both an ADD sufferer and the parent of three diagnosed children.
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See 1 question about Scattered…. Lists with This Book. Feb 23, whalesister rated it it was amazing Shelves: Pretty soon I was taking it with me everywhere I went, reading in the bathtub This is going to sound like an infomercial, but, really, this book has changed my life. It isn’t just about ADD; it’s about how to parent both your children and yourself in a way that promotes healthy mental well-being.
Every parent should read it.
Definitely everyone who thinks they or their children might possibly have ADD should read it. I look at parenting in a radically different way.
I’m a better mom in every way. I’m finally working through my own psychological “unfinished business. Of course it hadn’t been written then. But I wish it had. And that I had read it. If you are a parent or just a messed-up person like me, you should read it, too.
View all 4 comments. Feb 16, Angela Henderson rated it it was ok Shelves: Another Amazon reviewer nailed why: Mate’ does give some credence to the genetics of ADD, he pretty much leaves the implications of this behind scatteerd he goes into a long description of failed or inadequate parental attachments being gabog primary reason for ADD symptomatology as gaabor the parents of ADD kids didn’t feel guilty enough about passing on a genetic inheritance they most likely didn’t know they had.
Even if this was not the doctor’s intent, it is so pervasive in this book that one cannot help but feel that if a child or an adult exhibits ADD symptoms, that there is “someone” to blame, not just for the genetic inheritance but for bad parenting. One has ADD symptoms. They were raised under identical conditions, yet I am supposed to believe I was a shitty parent to one and not the other.
Mate’ believe his readers to be incapable of checking citations to the studies he’s referring to, assuming they have gwbor been published in peer-reviewed publications?
View all 13 comments. Jun 10, Kristen rated it it was amazing Recommends it for: I’ve become a bit of an evangelist about this book, since I see things so differently now. Things to learn in this book: If you want to get some insight onto a child with ADHD or oppositional behavior, check out this book. Turns out many of the things we do to control our children actually perpetuate the problems. As someone with attention issues and ADD in the family, I felt so understood by this author.
As the mother of someone with attention issues, I found inspiration, and our family dialogue has changed to a mutual seeking of solutions rather than ‘who’s in control.
Jul 07, Willa rated it really liked it Shelves: This book had an unusual perspective towards ADD. While acknowledging that it might have a biochemical or physiological element, the author a psychoanalyst focused on the condition not as a disease, but as a developmental problem related to attachment difficulties in the early years. He avoids putting any blame on the parents. To illustrate his perspective, he talks about his own early childhood.
He was born in eastern Europe injust before the Germans occupied. His father was gone somet This book had an unusual perspective towards ADD. His father was gone something to do with the war and he and his mother spent several weeks in a refugee camp.
He shows a picture of himself as a young baby Yet his mother, who is holding him, is turning down towards him the face of a Madonna — loving, kind, peaceful. The point is that even though his mother loved him and took the best care of him that a mother could, the times were incredibly stressful and that infants are deeply influenced by their mother’s state of mind, even if the mother is loving and caring.
He grew up with undiagnosed ADD. So his point isn’t that medication and behavioral treatments are useless, as that they are better done with a focus on relationship and particularly on attachment difficulties. So in this light, some of the ways parents treat their ADD children only escalate the problem.
For example, severity and criticism might set up resistance and “counterwill” which drive the child to do the opposite of what the parent wants. And the more a family is sucked into the emotional state of the ADD child, the less the child learns to regulate this feelings — he feels them magnified rather than soothed by the reaction of the other family members.
Scattered: How Attention Deficit Disorder Originates and What You Can Do About It
I found the book very interesting and several things about it made me understand myself better. I have a lot of ADD traits but didn’t really see myself as having a physiological difficulty so much as a transmission difficulty. The realization that anxiety and shame acquired early in life can “hijack” brain function made me understand better how I can think one way and act a completely different way, so that sometimes I feel like I am two people. Mate’s emphasis is that no one solution helps all people with ADD, but that while treating the symptoms it is good to look for the root causes.
Because of his perspective as an attachment theorist, he looks for causes in attachment problems. Since the attachment theory seems very plausible to me, I find his writings very convincing.
But I think this book offers some very valuable insights into how ADD affects and is affected by relationship. View all 6 comments. An excellent resource for those wanting to learn more about the disorder. And an interesting hypothesis about the origin of ADHD that may or may not resonate with each reader.
My only real point of contention is the author’s assertion that tuning out and dissociation are the same thing. Sure, they can coexist at different levels at the same time, but in my experience they definitely are not the same thing. The long, extremely personal version: This book has quite literally The short version: This book has quite literally changed my life.
I said no, and found the idea amusing. Reading is and always has been my favourite pasttime. I didn’t have behavioural problems growing up. Sure, I have always been extremely spacey and inattentive, disastrously disorganized and distracted, chronically forgetful and tuned out and so and and so forth But I didn’t fit into that stereotypical idea of a hyperactive problem-child ADHD kid, and I was extremely ignorant about the disorder, so, yeah, why would I associate myself with it?
Never crossed my mind. My therapist recommended I read a book on the topic, Scattered Minds: The Origins and Healing of Attention Deficit Disorderbefore our next session for discussion, because she strongly thought I might have ADD, and this book might give me some insight. I borrowed it from the library and began, highly skeptical.
Everyone has attention problems to some degree, right?
I very soon realized I actually had ZERO idea what ADHD was outside of the stereotypical notion of it, and did some obsessive online research alongside reading this book. Not even two chapters in, I realized, “Shit, this is me.
I’ve since been reading anything else about the disorder I can find. At my gwbor therapy session, my therapist asked if I had read the book and I said yes, and that it had resonated with me.
It would fill in all the blanks and areas that my history with depression and anxiety don’t account for, that I always tried to make them fit into to explain something that didn’t make sense. Then we discussed why, etc, blah blah. At the end of the appointment I promised her I would talk to maate physician about a diagnosis. It’s been a life-altering process, and a strangely liberating one.
Finally, finallyI understand what the hell was wrong with me my entire life. All the frustration and confusion.
Everything that didn’t make sense, makes sense.